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Crying and hyperventilating on a park bench for no reason apparent to anyone but you realllllly gets those dicks up! One minute, you're having a great date at a free outdoor concert, and the next minute, your heart is pounding and you feel like you are trapped in a Ziploc bag. "Playing it cool" is straight-up not in your repertoire. There's gotta be a country where "sitting at a bar staring into space and inevitably sweat-staining the pits of your expensive Madewell top while your brain moves 100 miles an hour" is considered playing it cool. Anyone familiar with benzos (that's an #INSIDER'S term for anxiety-alleviating tranquilizers) knows that they don't mix well with alcohol. Worst case scenario, you black out and wake up at the Formica table at an Arbys in another state. And you're so worried about whether they'll like you that you barely pay any attention to whether you like them. Like you said, he is loving, funny and intelligent - but the problem is that he does not believe that about himself right now.By slowly helping him come to believe those facts, his anxieties will have a lesser grip on him, and he will start to see the same great qualities in himself that you see.When I was doing something similar, my girlfriend acted disappointed and upset that I would not share what was on my mind. When I realized how important it was for me to talk with her about what is going on in my mind, regardless of how silly or sad it sounded to me at first, I started opening up to her more, and I think that also has brought us closer together. Moreover, I hope that he will start opening up to you more about what he is going through.A lot of the negative beliefs he may have about himself right now because of his childhood are NOT true, and it will take some time for him to let go of those beliefs and form more rational ones.
I do not think at this point he is making any efforts to heal and is only paralyzed by fear. I have never accused him of anything, have apologized if I am not understanding his feelings fully and asked for very little while he is in this state.I found out Adam, liked me through a mutual friend and we began seeing each other.It was great at the beginning, I did know he was introverted and shy so I took the lead, believe it or not I was attracted to him for those reasons and how smart he was.I think what you have been doing so far sounds excellent, which is simply telling him that you'll be there for him no matter what and also by being open about your own insecurities.It's obvious that you really care about him just because you found this forum to open up about your situation.